Anger is pain, suppressed. Rage is pain, fermented. But anger is easier to face and embrace. So easy. Empathy, perspective, love, compassion, logic… All of these die on the sharp sword of our rage. We need to make it easier to express pain, especially for men. And boys. We need to not diminish pain as weakness (feminine!). We need to… Read More

“You should meditate for 20 min a day, unless you don’t have time. Then you should meditate for an hour.” Me, before starting a meditation practice: Ha ha, those funny meditation people! Me, after trying meditation for short 10 min periods: Wow, this stuff really works. Some day maybe I can do that 20 min a day thing. An hour’s… Read More

“People define reality situationally a lot of the time, and the further someone is from self-awareness and accountability, the more dramatic that can be from the outside.” – from my friend JC Andrijeski This applies to people in general, to characters in books, and to writers themselves. To write is to attempt to explain people, so writers generally are more… Read More

I do things with a high probability of failure built into them just for the learning experience. So, let’s talk about failure. I fail – all the time, in fact. I’m constantly daring, risking, and there’s a certain amount of failure that comes with that. I don’t like it, mind you. It’s painful. Monetary loss can hurt, personal pride hits… Read More

A lady in a lake gave me a sword. I know its power and its secrets. My mind says, “We can unlock *everything* with this!” And I agree. I can see it, and my ambition is already halfway down the path. My body says, “You’re not strong enough to wield that sword.” I ask my brain, “Are we afraid? Is… Read More